From The Desk of Cara Cakes: Love Advice

So many people fantasize about love and sex and relationships and it's addicting because it's nice to think about. But, you have to think about the realities, that you don't always get what you want, when you want it, and you might not always be happy once you think you've found it.

You will stress and stress and stress over finding love, and then once you find someone you think you love, you worry about all the things they didn't do, or what they should have done to be a good significant other; instead of focusing on the good parts, and what you do have, you worry about what is bad, and how it will fail.

People worry constantly about whether or not they will find love, and when, and if that person sitting at the table across the aisle is their soulmate. Constantly, you are checking out the people around you, wondering if they are potential mates. Sometimes even when you already found a mate, or if the person you're looking at has one already themselves. There is no good way to say this other then, everyone wants the same thing.

My advice is to give your love to those around you, regardless of size, shape, color, age, or gender. Just love. Love everyone, and love yourself. If you exert all of this love, true, passionate, amazing love, then people will love you, and one day, you may be able to narrow all of those prospective lovers down to just one. The one.

But guess what...You also may not be meant to have just one. So don't dwell on failed relationships, because there is always the opportunity for another. There is love after love, and life after love. Life goes on. Love goes on. Depression over lost love is sometimes necessary to grieve, but also silly if it goes on for too long. Don't let loss of love hold you back from loving again. Don't let it stop you from loving those around you completely. Because if you are shutting down your love, and your ability to receive love, then you won't find it.

I love you, and you love me...and before this turns into a Barney song, I'm going to stop.

Hope this helps those of you struggling to understand your love life. Even just a little.